When Love Has Gone…

It doesn’t matter who called it first; ending a relationship, no matter how long or short it lasted, is always hard to do. Your mind will always go over every element that made up relationship in the quest to find out exactly what went wrong between you and the girl you thought was MS. RIGHT-FOR-YOU and the process can very painful, even if she was the one who said goodbye first.

The hurt that you may be feeling with regards the break up can get even worse once you find out that she who was once the girl in your life has begun to see someone else. That would get you start questioning yourself as to why you have not yet moved on when she obviously has done so.

If this happens to you, you will need to deal with the reality that everything is finally over between the two of you, even if you are not exactly ready to move on. you do not necessarily have to find someone to replace her just yet; just do something that will help ease blow of the news.

The first thing you need to do is to stop comparing yourself with your ex’s new squeeze. Stop asking yourself questions like “Is he cooler or cuter than me?” or “Does she love him more than she loved me?” or “What is he doing that makes her happy, a lot happier than I ever made her?” These questions will only make you go spiraling down in despair. Remember that whatever happened between you and you ex, you broke up because the two of you are not compatible enough to be able to bridge the gap created by whatever went wrong. The two of you are just not a good match.

Another thing you should do is to make sure that your paths will not cross with her and her new squeeze. if you have to change your daily routine, like the route going to your room, then do not hesitate to do so. Do not ask your friends for any news about her and tell them as well that you do not want to hear anything about whatever is going on with her at the moment out of your sight; she gets out of your mind.

Be polite and do not snob them even if you do manage to bump into her and her new boyfriend. Smile and say “hi” and then walk away. You do not need to feel embarrassed or to think you are pathetic, even if the sight of them fills you with humiliation. Being civil to them will make her think that you are okay and actually fill yourself with confidence.

Lastly, enjoy this time of being alone. More often than not, men in relationships tend to set aside some of the things they enjoy in order to make room for a goal in their lives. Being alone is as great a time as any to reconnect with your interest and rediscover who you are. Take this time to spoil yourself and enjoy being just you not as someboby else’s BOY.